I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have missed out on signs, red flags, blessings, happiness, opportunities just because I was too pre occupied in my mind about what should or shouldn’t have been rather than WHAT IS.
Most of us are trapped in a fantasy world and have lost touch with reality. Fantasy is a beautiful thing because it enables imagination which in turn enables creativity or action. This fantasy world also provides an escape from the real world for some people. Fantasy on the downside can blind us from realizing how blessed we are. It robs us of the joy of the present. I remember way back in high school when I, like so many teens binge watched telenovelas. In our minds we day dreamed of tall, well built shirtless men with sweat dripping down their biceps, with arms as strong as a stallion and smiles as bright as the morning sun🙄🙄 (looks up to the sky and takes a deep breath). God, the men in our heads were FINE!!!! I am still waking up to reality🤣
I have learnt that the only way to grow, to change, to heal is to be very much aware of who and where you are at the moment. I for the longest time thought that I could heal, change, or wipe away fear by ignoring the negative thoughts in my mind and just pushing them away. It worked for a short while and then the thoughts and the pain and the fear would come back swinging in with a force far much greater than before. Then in I would go, ignoring, pushing, blocking and denying over and over and over again (tiering right!!!!). One day I came to the realization that I didn’t really know what it was that I was scared of or running from or what my pain was or even what I wanted to change from. I decided to give my pain and my fears a chance. I sat down, paper and pen in hand and invited all of it to the red table (Hi Jada😉). I asked myself questions and my fears and myself had a conversation. I wrote down everything I was feeling and thought and decided to be PRESENT. In this meeting with self, I was armed to the tooth with facts (The word of God and who I truly knew I was and what I am capable of.) I let fear, pain, doubt and insecurities speak first, I LISTENED, then I RESPONDED. I only saw change in my life when I had this conversation with myself. I guess what I am saying is that, you can’t truly deal with anything unless you know what it is that you are dealing with.
In life so many people struggle for acceptance, however there is no way we can accept others for who they are less we first accept ourselves for who we are and yet to accept yourself for who you are, you must be present to how you feel, all your flaws and everything else that you would rather avoid. You have to resist the urge to create ideal situations in your mind of what should be rather than what actually is. Writing this also brings to mind the fact that even in relationships, people most often fall in love with the idea of what the other person will be and not who or what they actually are at the moment. WHY???Here are my two cents; 1. Because that’s what every one is selling, 2. Its easier to deal with people or rather endure them as we wait for them to metamorphose into our idea of who they will be or what they sold us into buying😒
Have you ever thought about how liberating, enlightening and honest the present is? let me give you a clue. if we were present to how people treat us, we would stop making excuses for them. if we are present to how we feel at the moment, then we would be able to look our fears in the eye and not hide behind masks of false “okaydom”, we would be able to unconditionally accept and deal with issues as they are and not hope them away, if we are present then we would leave the past where it belongs, In the past! If we are present we would realize how beautiful, blessed and loved we are. IF WE ARE PRESENT WE WOULD BE GRATEFUL
There is still so much that I am learning about being present but for now I hope you will choose to be present. Be present to yourself, your family, friends, spouse and the world. Be present and you will truly see